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Clever First Date Conversations
Not everyone is a born conversationalist so first date conversation can be superficial, awkward, and painful. A little bit of research and practice can go a long way. Think the scene in Bridget Jones' Diary where she practices pronouncing Chechnya.
Not everyone is a born conversationalist so first date conversation can be superficial, awkward, and painful. A little bit of research and practice can go a long way. Think the scene in Bridget Jones’ Diary where she practices pronouncing Chechnya.
Of course there are the basics like family composition, schooling, hobbies, books, movies, etc., that you shouldn’t forget. Here are a few other tips to make that first date conversation flow.
Listen to what your date says
The greatest conversation sources are waiting for you to jump on them. Just listen for follow up question openings and thenfollow up! For instance, your date tells you about his childhood in Albany and since you’ve never been there you ask more about the city, state, region. If you have been there, ask for more information on what you didn’t or did see.
The offbeat news find
Best-of-Craigslist, popular picks on Digg.com, and CNN’s Funny News are great sources of interesting conversation topics surely to entertain most of us. Get a quick read on the internet that day so that you’re prepared with a few stories to fill up those lulls in the conversation.
Your date’s interests: research
Find out on the phone before you meet, from the friend that set you up, or from his online profile what his interests are. He’ll be impressed that you can ask intelligent questions and that you researched beforehand.
Looking at your nightstand
Think about the book that’s currently on your night stand, the CD that’s playing in your car, the last vacation you took and be prepared for the questions you’ll be asked. Just like you, your date is preparing. In other words, you should be able to answer every question you ask your date.
Tell a few jokes
Don’t start now if you rarely tell jokes. But if you know you’re funny and your friends normally laugh at your jokes, you’re probably safe.
Avoid these things
The ol’ saying that politics and religion shouldn’t be talked about in mixed company stands true for first dates too. Although these are things important in deciding on your mate, it’s a great way to scare someone off before they get to know you well.