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5 Reasons Lovers Leave
The number of potentially deadly hazards to your relationship is astounding...it makes you wonder why people even try anymore. Well cheer up...for those of us who DO try, the good news is that most of worst things that can ruin your relationship are completely preventable! Five of the most particularly nasty ones are 100% avoidable, as you will soon see.
The number of potentially deadly hazards to your relationship is astounding...it makes you wonder why people even try anymore. Well cheer up...for those of us who DO try, the good news is that most of worst things that can ruin your relationship are completely preventable! Five of the most particularly nasty ones are 100% avoidable, as you will soon see.
1) Cheating on your partner. Absolutely inexcusable, and both guys and girls do it. I can’t even tell you how many times my friends’ and family’s hearts have been utterly ripped from their chests because the people they love cheated on them. Being unfaithful shatters trust and causes the person being cheated on to doubt his or herself. If you love your partner, you love him or her enough not to cheat. If you can’t control your sex drive enough to stay faithful to the love of your life, then you’re nothing more than a subhuman animal and you deserve to be alone.
2) Being demanding and controlling. Everybody’s probably seen at least one comedy movie where a happy-go-lucky guy is assaulted by his ogre of a woman, who can’t seem to let go of the leash long enough for him to walk into the kitchen. Sure, silly facial expressions and overemphasized gestures make you laugh, but inside you know there’s a part of you that’s thinking “I’m so glad that’s not ME getting a phone call every 10 minutes asking where I am.” Well, don’t make your partner that person...if boys and girls can’t get along and trust each other, there’s not much point in even having a relationship at all. Have a little trust.
3) Lack of emotional support. Everybody has feelings, regardless of whether or not they like to advertise them. The one person we’d rightfully expect to honor and pay attention to those feelings is our partner. When the person you love doesn’t consider or pay any attention to how you feel, it really hurts! I know TV has made it out to be that women are the only ones ever upset because their men aren’t emotionally sensitive, but guys do have feelings as well. Don’t neglect your partner’s feelings, it’s just needless hurt.
4) Letting fights get out of their role. Whenever two people are stuck together for extended periods of time, even if those people love each other desperately and passionately, there are going to be clashes where one person feels one way and the other a different way...that’s life, that’s relationships. It can even be healthy to clear the air sometimes, but when you let a fight expand outside the boundary of being helpful, it starts really harming your relationship. Don’t just shrug off your partner’s concerns, but don’t take fights too seriously either. Oh, and a tip for making fights a little less impactful: give in every now and again. ;)
5) Boredom and lack of spontanaeity. I feel physical pain every time I hear about a happy couple breaking up because the relationship became stale and boring. There is so very little reason why your time with the one you love should end up becoming more of a day-to-day routine than a constant joy. Do what’s needed to make things stay interesting and fun! You’re two great people in love, why shouldn’t every day together be a blessing? Letting a relationship reach its expiration date should be a crime, because it’s just such a tragic waste…
These are the five top “destroyers” of relationships...and most of them should never have a chance to ruin anybody’s relationship because they’re just ridiculous. Respectively, each one of these problems could be easily avoided by having just a little loyalty, trust, consideration, coolness of mind, and dedication! These are things I’d expect any happy couple to have...without them you’ll be lonely and in pain, as will the person you love.
So before you do something that’ll jeopardize your relationship, stop and think. Is it really worth it to hurt your partner and become alone? Have a brain, and have a heart.