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The Process Of Change
'Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.' --Albert Einstein
‘Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.’ --Albert Einstein
Change is difficult to define. There are some changes that seem to take *forever*. . .like weight loss, or selling a house in the current market. Other changes can happen in the blink of an eye and irreversibly. . . death, for example. A lot of people shun change, they do their best to hold on to the past, to hold on what’s comfortable. I had a grandmother who never appeared to change (aside from shrinking and wrinkling up a little). Her hair and clothes and friends and house and church were all exactly the same year after year. Holding on has the illusion of keeping us more secure, but it can also prevent us from growing.
The world is in a constant state of change—weather, temperature, time, seasons, life, death, rebirth. . .there’s nothing we can do to hold this change back and the most counterproductive and self defeating thing we can do is work against change.
Now in my late forties, I am making personal and professional changes myself. These changes are uncomfortable and scary, but thrilling at the same time. I am facing this fear and excitement eagerly. Growth comes from change and I’m all about growth.
We’re into the new year now and it’s most definitely time to assess what needs to change in your life. At the beginning of the year I wrote about resolutions. Resolutions are a nice idea. I like the clean slate that a new year can bring. But there is no time table for unexpected change and clean slates can start any time at all. Life isn’t run on a timetable. Things happen without our consent. Managing this fear is truly the key to a fulfilling life.
If you fear change, this is for you. Stop robbing yourself of the opportunities available to you with a little risk, a leap of faith, so to speak.
Realize that your resistance to change is entirely emotional. Emotional resistance can be difficult to overcome, but it can absolutely be done. Emotions are choices and we have the ability to choose the fear or we have the chance to accept it and push past it. Really understanding that our emotions are choices has been somewhat of a revelation to me. It’s given me a huge sense of relief and freedom over what I choose to feel in life.
Sometimes this resistance is ennui, a general weariness (not to be mistaken for laziness) and what is required in this instance is a sincere desire to push past. For other people change is a fear losing something valuable and a fear the unknown. Valid, both, but remember, regrets are seldom about things we tried, and often about the things we were too afraid to try, the chances we didn’t take.
Part of what I am changing has to do with really exciting developments soon to come in what I am offering at Max Persuasion. Please stay tuned for new classes, new opportunities to expand your persuasion and your life.