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How To Generate Attraction - No Matter Your Looks
One of the main issues I contend with, when dealing with my students is their idea of not being attractive enough to attract women.
One of the main issues I contend with, when dealing with my students is their idea of not being attractive enough to attract women.
This insecurity comes in various shapes and sizes. For instance:
They could be too old.
Some men think they are too fat.
Some men think they are too short.
Some men think they are too ugly.
These men feel as if they are in a weak position, when it comes to attracting the women they desire, because of these.
This simply is not the truth.
Here we can dismiss a few myths concerning attraction, which may be holding you back from a successful love life.
Myth #1 - You must be good looking to attract women.
All you have to do is look around at the various types of guys in this world who are dating gorgeous women to know that this isn’t the case.
Simply put, it is essential to look good regardless of your physical attractiveness.
Is there a difference?
Although you cannot control whether you are good looking or not, however you do have control of how you present yourself. You do control how you groom and the clothes you wear, your hairstyle, how you smell and so on.
These are all aspects that factor into looking good.
Any man can be attractive when he controls his appearance.
Myth #2 - Women and Men Think Alike
Naturally, you and I think that everyone else sees the same things the same way in which we see others.
For instance - If you’ve ever had a pimple on your forehead that felt so big, it was like everyone could see it. But the pimple was under the skin, and in reality, no one but you could tell it was there.
To you, it was clear as day. To everyone else, it was hardly noticeable.
Naturally, we practice this attitude while summing others up. Do you judge a woman by the way she looks? Of course you do, since you are able to determine by visually appraising her whether you think she is attractive.
By nature, you think a woman sizes you up in the same manner as you do her.
This assumption is a mistake.
Women judge men differently to decide on an attraction than men do, although that is not to imply that a woman would not care if a man were attractive or not. Even so, women do not consider physical characteristics in the same way as men do.
To women, attraction is based more around how men make them feel, rather than how the men look. That is why women are attracted to confidence and social status. They’re attracted to men who make them laugh. They’re attracted to men who are good at what they do. See how this works? Looks have very little to do with any of this.
Myth #3 - Women Notice Our Insecurities
Understand that we know ourselves better than anyone else ever will. We are able to pick out every single flaw there is about ourselves - our big ears, big nose, weak chin, receding hairline…
No matter what it is, we see it!
Since we see our flaws, we naturally presume that others do too, when in fact the majority of people do not pay attention. Unless that is, they look especially for some characteristic to hold against you. Most fret over their own insecurities whatever they may be, without noticing yours.
Many men may call attention to their shortcomings while trying to dismiss and diffuse the things that make them feel insecure. Consequently, all this type of behavior does is managing to call the attention of the woman to the area of insecurity; otherwise, she may not even notice it.
And insecurity is always unattractive.
Then remember, in every situation it is essential to focus on your good qualities rather than any shortcomings, since the positive will outshine the negative or at least balance it more in your favor.
Myth #4 - Good Looking Men Have It Made
This is probably the biggest myth there is - that if a guy is good looking, girls will automatically flock to him.
Physical attractiveness may initially assist, however ultimately, good looking men suffer from the same types of problems as other men, while managing their own types of struggles with women they find attractive.
Attraction is the art of magnifying the emotional connection that a woman feels for you, when you are around, this connection will only occur when you are around her, therefore to feel those feelings she will want you to be around her.
When a man matches the physical type of man, a woman prefers she naturally gravitates towards him, simply because those features appeal to her. Those feelings go away if she considers the man to be incompatible, a jerk or a bore.
Do you know that a woman may not at first find a man to be physically attractive and then somehow experience thrilling fun and pleasure; she will become attracted to him in time?
This is the fundamental concept of attraction - when you make other people feel good, they will want to be around you.
You don’t have to be a good guy to make women feel good! You just need to know how to interact with them.
But the second aspect to this equation is SEXUAL attraction.
This is where, in addition to making people feel good, you also turn them on.
This is where the aspect of seduction comes into play.
As you lead a woman towards sexual attraction, she begins seeing you in a new perspective, despite your shortcomings or looks.