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The Five Unavoidable Red Flags
In hindsight it's easy to say that your ex was a jerk, an abuser, or a cheater. I know because I've done this at least 18 times.
In hindsight it’s easy to say that your ex was a jerk, an abuser, or a cheater. I know because I’ve done this at least 18 times.
The reality is that we may have seen the red flag but we justified it in our mind to be a little more pink than red because we liked the guy. Sometimes this can be OK, but be honest with yourself and if the flag is, in fact, very red, get out before it’s too late. Here are five red flags that must not be ignored.
1. Too rough. If even when playing around he grabs you too hard, twists an arm, or pushes you, he’s no good. A respectful person will never try to hurt his partner, even when they are just playing around.
2. The “Who’s that guy?” syndrome. Everyone has insecurities so a little jealousy can be normal in a relationship. But you should know the difference between a little jealous and a lot jealous. If he gives you 20 questions every day, if he accuses you of things that are untrue, if he puts you down and calls you names, then he’s way too insecure. And the bad news is that he won’t get better. It’s just the beginning and he WILL get worse.
3. Your sister hates him. Your friends and family love you dearly and want only what is best for you. There are always exceptions to this, but at least listen to and consider what they have to say about your new man. If they don’t like him, there is probably a good reason. They know you best and only want you to be happy.
4. You don’t do what you used to. Changing your priorities with a new relationship is natural. Spending less time with your friends and on your hobbies will happen, but don’t entirely eliminate them. If your significant other prevents you from seeing your friends or is upset when you do things on your own, consider it a red flag.
5. He’s scary one minute and sweet the next. Extreme mood swings are a sign of instability. You deserve someone who will treat you well all the time. You shouldn’t have to worry about what kind of mood he’ll be in when you get home or whether or not you should rearrange your day just to make him happy.
Visit the DatingTales online dating guide for more tips like these, because these five red flags only scratch the surface.