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Get Your Ex Back In 3 Simple Steps
Breakups are no fun, not for anybody. No matter who you are, going through a breakup is painful and stressful...but even when the chips are down and it seems like life is practically meaningless anymore, don't go to pieces! You CAN get your life back together and learn how to get your ex back, and I can help you do it!
Breakups are no fun, not for anybody. No matter who you are, going through a breakup is painful and stressful...but even when the chips are down and it seems like life is practically meaningless anymore, don’t go to pieces! You CAN get your life back together and learn how to get your ex back, and I can help you do it!
I’ve assembled all of the little things (and some not-so-little) involved in figuring out how to get your ex back into a simplistic 3-step program that groups the processes into three separate stages. With this plan, it becomes very possible indeed to turn your life around and get your ex back.
Stage 1 - Cut Off Contact: I know it seems like the last thing you’d want to do, but in truth the smartest and best move directly after a breakup is to sever your ties with your ex and just give him/her some space to breathe and time to think. Pushing him/her too much right now isn’t going to help you much, and you have enough to worry about on the home front.
All relationships end because of problems, with one person so dissatisfied with things that he/she has no choice but to end it. Typically, those problems lie with the person who was left. This means YOU, but don’t worry too much. All you have to do is make use of this “downtime” and really analyze your relationship to figure out what the problems were, and make whatever sacrifices, compromises, or changes to yourself that will be necessary for your partner to be happy. I know it seems a little unfair and daunting, but it’s what’s needed if you really want to be with your ex.
Stage 2 - Reestablish Contact With Your Ex: The time it’ll take to do the analysis/self-work part of the first stage should be sufficient to where upon finishing it or at least getting it well underway, the timing should be fairly appropriate for making contact again. First contact should be very light; a phone call or email asking how he/she is doing should suffice. DO NOT broach the subject of getting back together yet.
If that went without conflict, it’s probably all good to go ahead and slowly build contact back up with the odd phone call or email here and again. Don’t push things too quickly, or you’ll drive your ex away, but take things slowly and you’ll probably end up spending some decent time together. Use the times you’re with each other to passively remind your ex of how great the two of you used to fit, by doing things the both of you always enjoyed as a couple. The memories combined with the new and improved you should really soften up your ex to the idea of reuniting and possibly even make it be his/her idea.
Stage 3 - Keeping Your Ex: If all this works and you get back together (if you did it right, the odds are in your favor), you have to do your best to KEEP your ex again. You can’t revert to your old ways that caused the breakup in the first place, or else it’ll end again...and getting back together twice is a lot tougher than just once. Keep the changes you’ve made to yourself...it’ll see you through some tough times.
Remember when you’re using this 3-stage system that it’s almost entirely based on passive techniques. The most proactivity and aggression you’ll be demonstrating should be with yourself, getting your flaws and issues sorted out. When dealing with your ex, the last thing you want to do is scare him/her away, so always work on simply letting your ex see your dedication for him/herself. It’s amazing how effective it can be.