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Articles by Len Stauffenger
Divorced And On A Tight Budget, Mom?
Are you a custodial parent in a divorce, in particular, are you a single mother operating on a tight budget? Here are some great budget-stretching tips to help you.
Harmonious Interfaces With Your Ex
When you're divorced, one of the biggest challenges when there are children involved is the ongoing interface you must have with your ex. Your children deserve this communication because they don't handle change real well, and this communication is part of the continuity they so want and so deserve to have.
Nine Practical Tips To Teach Your Child About Money
Children can be taught early on and easily about handling money in their lives. Any one of these nine practical tips from author and divorced dad, Len Stauffenger, help you get the point across.
Reconciliation Vs. Divorce ' Could It Work For You?
Why consider reconciliation vs. a divorce? Because divorce has consequences that can be enormous and overwhelming and painful for everyone involved. If you can prevent it, please consider reconciliation.
Who's Responsible For Homework When You Have Visitation Rights?
Frequently in a divorce, if you are the custodial parent, the children do their homework at your house under your supervision. Because we understand and respect about children coming first when you're divorced, just how are you handling setting consistent implementing of homework standards when they visit their other parent?
Recognizing The Signs Of Cheating To Prevent That Second Divorce
When we are young, we are inexperienced and just not savvy when it comes to building quality relationships. We base our decisions on reasons that are subtly buried inside ourselves, and we avoid looking at the clues that are right in front of us. You can unfold the skills that it takes to not make that mistake twice. Nobody wants two divorces.
Do You Know Why You Chose The Mate You Just Divorced
You've gone through a divorce and you now know that once is more than enough, right? But do you know how to foster a quality relationship, marry more intelligently the second time around and prevent another divorce? Read on.
Children Come First When Establishing Visitation Agreements
Divorce presents many opportunities for the unfoldment of your character and establishing a reasonable visitation agreement is one of those times. If you keep the welfare of the children tantamount, you will be successful.
How To Help Your Child Handle Change
Divorce presents far more of a challenge to the children than to the divorcing parents. They are innocent victims of their parent's decisions and need your help to let them continue to love both their parents, because they did nothing wrong.
Stiffle It For The Sake Of Your Children
Are the demands of raising children getting to you? Are you a divorced parent who experiences anger? Do you snap at your own children because of your stress? Here are some tips to identify if you are reaching critical mass.
Can Mediation Work For You In Lieu Of Divorce
If you are about to get a divorce, I want you let you know that mediation might be a great alternative to that divorce for you. You won't have to hire an attorney and the outcome can be just as effective.
School Decisions Should Be Made By Both Parents
All children love their parents to be pleased with their work at school. When you are divorced, this doesn't change. Using your wisdom for communicating with your ex might be called upon for this circumstance.
Should You Invite Your Ex To Holiday Affairs
There were times during the early days of my divorce, when I did not want to see my ex's face. Period. And yet, there were the children who were accustomed to seeing her at family parties. What is the best thing to do for the sake of the kids?
Get The Support You Need In A Divorce Recovery Group
Divorce brings such challenging tasks along with it. You have to surmount your fears and your self doubt. I know many divorcees who feel it was the cause of their ultimate good and finding their soul mate as it was for me. There are online recovery groups who can help you process through this challenge.
Understanding Your Divorce ' Use A Journal
Divorce emotions are hard enough one time, so you want to do everything you can not to repeat the same mistakes. Even if it looks like your ex is the one who made mistakes, it did take two to tango. If you journal about the divorce, you will discover your role and not make the same mistake twice.
Helping Your Kids Thru The Emotions Divorce Stirs Up
The trauma that seems intrinsic to many divorces come from using dirty tactics. You're so much better off to steer clear of them though. You're better off to know your rights and insist they be honored.
If You Lose Touch With Your Kids, They Think It's Their Fault
You can be sensitive to the fact that when you decide to divorce, your child may also experience the same grief that you feel as a parent: that of grief. You are losing your dream of a married, loving commitment. They are losing the presence of a parent that they have grown accustomed to. You can help cushion their sense of loss.
Infidelity Falls On Both Yours And His Shoulders
If you have been the victim of your spouse's infidelity, this article is for you. It will help you to understand why he/she did it a bit more clearly, and you may even see your role (or the lack of it) in these wise words from a Life Coach and Divorced Dad.
Do You Use Dirty Tricks On Your Ex?
If you've suffered emotional trauma that has left you feeling vulnerable and vindictive - someone who might feel tempted to resort to dirty divorce tricks - you will need a strong skill set, a lot of knowledge, professional support, but mostly, you will need internal courage to face your ex down and get what you deserve by law.
You Got A Divorce. How Did That Make Your Kids Feel?
Your children are going to feel that your divorce is the end of the world for them. It's wonderful to do a lot of explaining with them and a lot of listening to them. It's also good to help them to unfold some coping skills.
How Much Should You Share With Your Kids? 12.5
Divorced Parents have an uphill and ongoing struggle to stay communicated for the sake of your children. You'll have to remove the emotion from it and 'just do it."
When Your Ex Is Gay - How Do You Tell His Children?
If you're getting a divorce because your spouse is gay, and there are children from that marriage, it's a ticklish situation because at some point, you'll have to tell those children their dad is gay. Here's a story about how one woman handled this with her sons.
How To Set Up Boundaries With Your Ex
Are there places in your life that leave you feeling uncomfortable? I suspect it's because you haven't learned yet how to set boundaries. This article will be a great beginning for you on that boundary-setting process and you'll be so much happier when you've got that in place.
Why Your Divorce Can Be The Best Thing That Ever Happened To You
Everybody's heard the "lemons to lemonade" advice but when it comes to a painful divorce, just how do you see the good in it? Divorced Dad, Len Stauffenger, gives you tons of ideas here and not only will they salve your divorce hurts, they will radiate into all the other areas of your life as well.
How Can You Trust Another When Your Ex Treated You So Badly?
Divorce is a time when emotional upheaval seems to be the norm. If you've found yourself in the situation of being treated badly by your ex, you'll want to correct that so that you never experience it again. Read the words of wisdom of Len Stauffenger, Life Coach and Divorced Dad.
Punishing Your Ex Is Punishing Yourself
If you are one of those divorced parents who thinks it's just jolly good fun to punish your ex every chance you get, consider if this is beneficial for the children. Surely they cannot benefit by learning spitefulness, stubbornness, manipulation, alienation of affection, and putting down the new Mrs. Wonderful. Surely you'd want better for your children.
Don't Add Guilt To A Good Day Visiting Your Ex
If you are the divorced parent who bears the majority of the responsibility of the children on a day-in, day-out basis, when they go spend a fun weekend with their other parent, and they come home full of fun and games, don't let your resentment spill over as guilt on them. They deserve better from you.
Mean What You Say - Say It Only Once
If you can teach yourself to "mean what you say" the first time you say it, you can save yourself and your kids a lot of aggravation and then discipline can become the instructional tool it was meant to be. You'll be able to give up threats.
How Often Can Your Children Visit You?
When you are a divorced dad or mom, visitation with your children is a right for both you and them. It's a court-awarded and mandated benefit. But more than that, it's critical to your child's welfare and that is the important part.
Divorced With A Low Credit Score? Promising News To Raise The Score!
If you're in the throes of a divorce, or if you've just recently gone through one, your credit might have been damaged in the process. Here are some great tips on restoring your credit score.
Staying In Touch With The In-Laws After Your Divorce
Those sticky emotions that bubble and boil when you get a divorce sometimes form themselves into a type of revenge toward your mother-in-law who doesn't deserve it. Don't keep your kids from her. There are way too many blessings in fostering their relationship.
Don't Make Promises To Your Kids If You Can't Keep Them
We have all grasped at straws in the air to nudge our kids to conform to what we want them to do and we use promises to make that happen. It might not be the best idea. Divorced Dad, Len Stauffenger, encourages you to use trust and your kids memory to make only those promises you fully intend to keep.
Are The Rules The Same At Both Dad And Mom's House?
When you are divorced and your kids have a weekend with your ex - their other parent - do you notice a difference in your child when they come home? Is their behavior altered from when they are away from you? Maybe it's time to run a few ideas about continuity by your ex and try for a little buy-in for your value-driven decisions.
Re-Discovering Who You Are After A Divorce
How does one weather the storms of a divorce when you feel as if all your nuts and bolts have been shaken loose, and you've run out of answers for all those questions from your family and friends? You deserve some reflective time to figure yourself out and snuggle into your highest sense of what that means to you.
Explaining Child Custody To Your Children
When you get a divorce, you don't want your children to be in limbo over any of the child custody arrangements, so it's well to find a special place and a special time to explain them to your kids.
Do The Apples Always Fall Close To The Tree?
Have people told you "You're just like your mother?" or "You're just like your father?" We all have parents, but the personas we've grown since our birth is ours alone and deserves full attention. Discovering your individuality might be the main fallout from your divorce.
You Divorced Me! I'm Taking All The Stuff!
Not a high percentage of divorces have equitable property settlements or spousal support agreements. Read on for ideas about what to include in your settlement.
Are You The "Big Event" Type Of Parent Or The "Daily Influencer" Type?
When divorce happens to you and you are the parent left with the raising and influence of the kids, what kind of an influence are you? Here are some tips about what children really want and need from you.
Now That You're Divorced, Do You Have A Great Parenting Plan?
When you are a divorced parent, you've got your hands quite full. You never thought your divorce would involve all these details and all these decisions. It's very easy to slide into overwhelm. Here are some tips from a successful divorced dad to help you jump these hurdles.
This Can't Be Happening To Me!
Can you figure out which stage you might be in for your divorce? Divorced Dad, Len Stauffenger spells it out for you and it's very similar to the stages one goes through upon the death of a loved one. Hang in there. Eventually you will complete all the stages. Happiness is on the other side.
Creating A Great Parenting Plan
Do you have a Parenting Plan for raising your kids now that you are a single, divorced parent? It will help you make it through the tough times of your divorce.
Don't Put The Blame On Your Ex
Consider exercising great caution and restraint when you speak about your ex within earshot of your children. They still love him/her and it causes them great pain to hear you put them down.
When you are divorced and you have children, one of the stickiest things you have to handle is the interface required with your ex. Here is the wisdom from one Divorced Dad.
Can You See Your Kids Triggering You?
If you will spend some time discovering what triggers you, you can make enormous progress in your life to become the kind of role model your kids deserve. You can share your new skills with your kids to teach them how to handle things when they become triggered.
Build The Proper Foundation And Your Children Can Withstand Any Storm
Establishing a strong moral foundation for your children and patterning moral behavior will help them through their first time of seeing someone naked in a magazine as it did me.
Something horrible has happened between you and the person you fell in love with and got married to. You've decided to divorce. Your children did not have the same experience with your ex and should not be subjected to your evil feelings about him or her.
Who Are We Gonna Live With, Dad?
Three simple steps to help you maintain your emotions when deciding on the custody of your children during a divorce proceeding. Len Stauffenger, Divorced Dad, shares this common sense article to help you from becoming a second-divorce statistic.
Divorce is wrought with disappointment because of the broken promise of a two-parent family. In this article, Divorced Dad Len Stauffenger provides some practical tips to re-grow that trust with your kids and preventing yet another divorce.
How Does Your Past Ruin Your Future?
You might be amazed when you read this article how much of the past you are dragging into today's conversations and interfaces. You might cringe to learn how you are losing your present to your past. This old, not-working habit deserves your attention in changing it.
Listening With Complete Attention To Your Kids
Listening to your children is one of the most important tasks as a divorced parent. It's not always easy due to your very full plate. Here are some great ideas to help you focus on your kids.